The Long Game: Lessons from the Sagrada Família on Patience, Progress, and Wellbeing
How consistency, vision, and self-kindness can shape the journey to wellbeing

Last month, whilst being in Barcelona for Evoking Health, I had a short amount of time to do some sightseeing and went to revisit the breathtaking Sagrada Família. This basilica, under construction since 1822, is a testament to vision, dedication, and patience.
When I first visited in 2023, I was amazed by its grandeur. But returning two years later, I could actually see the progress—new details emerging, towers reaching higher, and even gained access to spaces previously closed.
Walking through its intricate designs, I was struck by a profound realisation that true progress really is slow, steady, and built over time. Each architect, builder, and artisan has contributed, knowing they might never see the final masterpiece, yet their efforts remain essential.
This time, as I stood still in the Sagrada Família and admired its beauty, I found myself reflecting on the importance of staying focused and not losing hope in our goals, dreams, and visions, especially during the tough times. How we measure success truly matters; it’s rarely about instant results, but rather about steady, deliberate effort over time. Whether we're working on our physical health, building mental resilience, or nurturing long-term wellbeing, it’s the small, consistent actions that shape the bigger picture.
As a Health Psychologist, this is exactly what I support others to do, but outside of my professional role, I too need to remind myself of these principles and continue to practise what I encourage in others.
The Power of Consistency in Growth
In a world that glorifies instant success, it's easy to feel disheartened when results don’t come quickly. This experience made me reflect on how we pursue our own goals—whether in health, mindset, work, career, or personal growth. But just like the Sagrada Família, real change requires:
✔️ Vision – A clear goal, even if the journey is long.
✔️ Consistency – Small, deliberate steps over time.
✔️ Patience – Trusting the process, even when progress feels slow.
✔️ Resilience – Adapting when things don’t go as planned.
Where People Give Up: The Weight Loss Journey
One place I often see people feel defeated and give up, or worse, become their own harshest critic is weight loss. So many people start their journey with motivation and enthusiasm, especially at the start of the New Year, only to lose heart when they don’t see quick results by the end of January. They step on the scale, don’t like the number, and suddenly, weeks of effort feel meaningless. This is where the mindset piece is crucial.
Weight loss is a process of small, consistent actions that may not show immediate results but are still making a difference. The mistake many people make is assuming progress must be visible to be real. But in reality, changes happen internally long before they are noticeable externally.
Think about it this way: just because you can’t see something changing doesn’t mean it’s not happening. Your body is adapting, your metabolism is shifting, and your habits are solidifying. Quitting too soon means you never get to see the true results of your efforts.
Self-Criticism: The Biggest Roadblock
Another huge challenge I see is that when people struggle with weight loss, they often become their own worst enemy. Instead of acknowledging progress, they focus on perceived failures:
🚫 "I ate one unhealthy meal—I've ruined everything."
🚫 "The scale hasn’t moved—I must be doing something wrong."
🚫 "I missed my workouts this week—I might as well give up."
This kind of ‘all-or-nothing thinking’ is what derails progress. The truth is, the mind is very good at telling you what you haven’t done and not what you have achieved. Every step forward matters, even if there are some steps backward along the way. What if, instead of punishing yourself for setbacks, you treated yourself with the same patience and compassion that you would a friend or a loved one? Self-compassion means recognising that setbacks are part of being human and offering yourself understanding rather than judgment.
Redefining Success: Progress Over Perfection
It’s no cliché that the best things take time. Too often, we measure success in unrealistic timelines, expecting overnight transformation. But what if success isn’t about perfection, but persistence? What if setbacks aren’t failures, but part of the process?
Life is unpredictable. The best plans don’t always work out. But quitting is the only way to truly fail.
Top Tips: If you’ve got a vision for your health and wellbeing, here’s how to keep it on track:
✅ Set your goal.
✅ Keep it small and realistic.
✅ Adjust when needed.
✅ Restart if necessary.
✅ Don’t give up.
Just like the Sagrada Família, the masterpieces of your life - your health, your confidence, and your mindset are built one brick at a time.
Thank you for taking the time to read this blog.
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Here’s to progress over perfection, and kindness over criticism. Stay well.
Warm Wishes
Dr Neesha Patel




